Awhile ago, I guest posted on a Chicago blog called "The Exceptional Man" about, you guessed it, what makes a man exceptional (in my opinion). I went on and on about how great Dan is and talked about the idea I have that what you should really look for are the qualities that your grandmother looked for and how those qualities are so much more important than jewelry or vlogs dedicated in your honor.
I believe and meant everything I said. But, it wasn't until a few days ago that I realized that this guy that I've been dating, living with, (probably annoying the crap out of) for 2.5 years, is actually beyond exceptional and not just to me, but to the people who are important to me, too.
We were talking to a cousin of mine, who has been having boy troubles. Basically, she's been dating a selfish guy, who only acts like a boyfriend when it's convenient for him. Dan and I have been trying to get her to realize how much selfish guy is a minus in her life, and she does realize it but for some reason, she won't take the final step to say "That's it, we're through." He's waiting for her to do it, and she's holding out for him to change, when she knows he won't and that he's probably not even capable of doing so.
Then, Dan said something to my cousin that made me realize, even more than I already do, that he's not only a great partner, but he'll probably be a kick-ass father when the time comes and his teenage daughter is crying her eyes out because some jerkface broke her heart.
He said: K, the time you spend with A is a gift to be cherished. What has A done recently, in the past 6 months, or even the past year, to deserve that gift from you? Nothing.
He wasn't even talking to me and I started tearing up like the sensitive loser I am.
Sometimes I wish I could watch state farm insurance commercials without crying, but then I wouldn't be me. And if I wasn't me, I wouldn't have a guy who considers the time he spends with people a gift that he has to work towards deserving. You're doing a good job so far D.P.!
2 comments:
That made me tear up.
A+ Dan Peat.
Leah, we have so many things in common that we do not even know about yet. (Do you cry at the diamond commercial where the young couple is walking through the park holding hands and passes by the old couple walking through the park holding hands?? I do...)
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