But I'm always amazed by how EASY it is for Dan to bond with other guys. It takes me weeks, months, years to form friendships and for him, it's effortless. I try to come off as friendly so people know that they can be themselves around me, but usually I just end up stuttering over a compliment in hopes that they'll like me right away.
Dan, on the other hand, spouts off something ridiculous or shocking and immediately, he has a new best friend! Here's one of his best lines to date: That guy must think the streets are paved with cheese cause he's driving like a pussy. <---Fievel Goes West Reference
Example: This weekend two of Dan's female friends were coming in to Chicago to go to a wedding in Milwaukee with us. They're from NJ, but he lived with them for four months while studying abroad in Australia. I was nervous because girls are usually way more judgmental than guys and I knew I wouldn't be at the top of my game because I was on Day 11 of being sick and didn't really feel up to entertaining.
I didn't really have to worry about that because we bonded over videogames (of all things!) but no matter how close we got, it wasn't anything like Dan and Kyle (one of the NJ girl's boyfriend). Seeing them together was like seeing Dan meet his long-lost brother from another mother for the first time. It was really special...and also a tad creepy how much alike they were.
This is after one night of drinking. Dan is shirtless...and I don't know if he's less anything else. I was upstairs sleeping while these shenanigans were going on and only saw this picture and the rest of this photoshoot in the morning.
Here are Dan and Kyle bonding over tying ties. Dan knows how to tie a full-windsor and feels the need to make sure everyone else's tie looks as good as his. 
There are also a couple of bathtub pictures that I can't figure out how to get off my blackberry because they were sent to me by text and not email. Those are probably too weird for me to post up here anyway.So on one hand, I'm grateful that I can bring Dan somewhere and people immediately like him, vice versa. It makes so many situations less stressful when I know that I don't have to babysit and introduce my boyfriend to everyone and their mother so his feelings don't get hurt. (I dated one of those before...it's horrible!)
On the other hand, should I be worried that he's perfectly okay, excited even, to take bathtub pictures with a guy he's only hung out with for about 4 days? OR should I be jealous that both girls I met didn't want to take bathtub pictures with ME? I don't even know what to think right now!
After this weekend, I'm left wondering, is it just easier for guys to bond right away? Or is it just easier for Dan?
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I think it is impossible to say whether it is girls or guys that bond easier, but it completely depends on a person's personality and their history of making friends.
My relationship seems to be the complete opposite of yours. I make friends very easily, and I always give people the benefit of the doubt (although, I can come across as awkward like you say you are sometimes too). With Tim, people have to "earn" his friendship and liking. Tim has a small, tight group of friends that he has known for his whole life, and I have friends spread out all over the place, some whom I have known for my whole life and some I have only met in the past six months, each of whom I am very close with.
Neither way is really right nor wrong, and I think that in relationships such as mine and yours (with two different friend-making styles) people can learn from each other and benefit from other people's personalities.
I think having a sense of humor definitely helps...and it looks like Dan has a great sense of humor. I like the tie picture. Good for you for having such an outgoing boyfriend!
I think it's easier for guys because they don't have all the petty drama and attitude that I think some girls do. Guys just go with the flow while girls tend to be a little more reserved. The bromance pictures are so cute!
I love that! Personally I think it comes down to the individual because guys can be pretty cliquey too. Anyone who is friendly and open to making friends is a total WIN! :)
Dan Peat is an asshole.
Sorry, I'm still re reading the title. I seem a bit stuck there. Can I meet your boyfriend?
I'll take bathtub pictures with you Leah! :)
My husband and I have the same thing going on. He makes great friends so easily. They're willing to do anything for him and vice versa. Car trouble? plumbing problems? 2am? No problem.
Well, unless he doesn't like you and decides to try to piss you off. BUT usually he is all charming and friendly.
I Can't do that. I try, but I also do the stumbling thing. Or I just don't know what to say so I say nothing. Which is probably why I have a few friends, but no real Friends here. Ugh.
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